Most vibrators are purchased with external (clitoral) stimulation in mind since over 70% of women need direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm.
Compact or powerful vibrators are great for this type of attention. The stimulation is strong and consistent. A vibrator that offers variable speeds (strong, stronger, strongest) is a wonderful option for those who like to increase or decrease the strength as the get closer to orgasm. A more life-like vibrator is recommended if you or your partner like the option of penetration with your vibrator. The softer material tends to absorb a lot of the vibration in these types of vibrators so they may be less effective in helping you reach a climax as opposed to the hard plastic types. If it does not take much effort for you to reach an orgasm (lucky!) then the softer ones with variable speeds are perfect for you! You can find vibrators in so many shapes and sizes that once you determine how you want to use it, then it becomes a matter of personal preference for size, shape, color, and price.
Fast forward to adult life, past your college days of sneaking boys into the dorm. You’re in this great relationship with this great guy and we have a great time together but sometimes you just aren’t having that great of sex.
Over the years, when your sex should have been getting better, it may have stayed stagnant and at times got worse. Neither you or your partner are of doing anything any differently, you just aren’t progressing. Is it the same ol’ missionary everyone loves to hate then doggy-style to end it off?
Spoiler alert: He may have no idea what your needs are.
For people who have an active sex life, it makes no sense as to why we do not communicate our needs to our sexual partners. Once we are finally comfortable and secure why do we regress back to those early teenage years of losing our voice? I’d like to encourage you to talk to your partner and find your voice. Do not shut down, shut off and convince yourself it would never work because they may never know what you need.
When you want sex, tell them. If you masturbate while they are at work, share that. If you want to sleep instead of getting on top, roll back over. This may sound mundane and common sense for some of the world but for those of us who haven’t shaken that stigma of shame about sex communication in the bedroom can be terrifying.
Do not be afraid to take things further than you have in the past if that is where you want to go. Opening up and telling your partner what you want, where you want it, how you want it, can strengthen your lives beyond the bedroom and bring you even closer together. Not to mention telling them what you want can be a giant turn-on for them and you.
The fears of rejection and even judgment can follow us quietly and then make their presence known loudly in the most intimate of settings. Pushing past that, opening your mouth and speaking what you want may be the best decision you ever make.
In this age of technology let’s not lose our voice. In business in public and most of all in the bedroom. Where we all are working to the same goal the big O. Never be afraid to express yourself give feedback and praise
Through good communication, you only help your partner. Now how you chose to deliver that message is up to you.
Have fun with it practice your sexy voice your dominating tone and your whispers of Ecstasy